October 05, 2009
Hit me with your best shot
Why don’t you hit me with your best shot?
Hit me with your best shot
Fire Away
- Pat Benatar
So yeah, I haven’t written in ages. But I’m here today and it’s going to be a rant.
Ladies – why do we tear each other down? Whether it is intentional or not, why do we do it? You know what I mean – back handed “compliments,” jabs at self esteem, etc. I’m tired of witnessing innocent conversations quickly devolve from friendly joshing into line crossing in a matter of seconds. I’m the first to say that I’m the biggest joker there is and I routinely push the limits on acceptable kidding/insulting. But really though, when you cross over that line from joking to pulling at a thread of insecurity, it’s not funny, it’s ugly. Even if you meant no harm and honestly were “just joking.”
Guys, you live by different rules and I’ve seen all manner of insults, some incredibly hurtful, thrown around between dudes and neither party seems worse for the wear afterward. But keep in mind what I said above when joking around with the ladies around you.
Here are a few common sense rules, which today, constitute
The Dabbs Five
Five Things to Never Joke About With a Woman:
1) Her Weight
2) Her Age
3) Her Clothes
4) How she raises her kids
5) How she manages her…. (fill in the blank – time, household, money, etc.)
And I know some of you are curious, and I’ll give you a brief version. No, I wasn’t insulted today, nor did I do the insulting, but I witnessed an “I was just joking!” moment that set me off. “You’re just jealous because you can’t pull it off!!!” And by “it” she meant a cute dress and cute boots.
Really?
Really?!
I think that should be taken as a challenge. Game on!
Hit me with your best shot
Fire Away
- Pat Benatar
So yeah, I haven’t written in ages. But I’m here today and it’s going to be a rant.
Ladies – why do we tear each other down? Whether it is intentional or not, why do we do it? You know what I mean – back handed “compliments,” jabs at self esteem, etc. I’m tired of witnessing innocent conversations quickly devolve from friendly joshing into line crossing in a matter of seconds. I’m the first to say that I’m the biggest joker there is and I routinely push the limits on acceptable kidding/insulting. But really though, when you cross over that line from joking to pulling at a thread of insecurity, it’s not funny, it’s ugly. Even if you meant no harm and honestly were “just joking.”
Guys, you live by different rules and I’ve seen all manner of insults, some incredibly hurtful, thrown around between dudes and neither party seems worse for the wear afterward. But keep in mind what I said above when joking around with the ladies around you.
Here are a few common sense rules, which today, constitute
The Dabbs Five
Five Things to Never Joke About With a Woman:
1) Her Weight
2) Her Age
3) Her Clothes
4) How she raises her kids
5) How she manages her…. (fill in the blank – time, household, money, etc.)
And I know some of you are curious, and I’ll give you a brief version. No, I wasn’t insulted today, nor did I do the insulting, but I witnessed an “I was just joking!” moment that set me off. “You’re just jealous because you can’t pull it off!!!” And by “it” she meant a cute dress and cute boots.
Really?
Really?!
I think that should be taken as a challenge. Game on!
Posted by Amy at 16:06:35 |
LB wrote: